When a Man Ruins Your Life

After going to an event with people from high school in 2019 on New Years, I became reacquainted with my friend's friend. We ended up getting engaged to be married within a couple months. He then convinced me that I could quit my job and I believed that he had enough money to support me and pay my bills. He wasn't quite honest with his finances and I ended up having to use my credit cards without being able to pay them off. My credit went from nearly perfect to below 500 in a matter of months. I started making strange decisions that were unlike myself like leaving my car at the airport instead of selling it. He didn't care about my financial health whatsoever. I also couldn't find an adequate job because he kept moving us from state to state and in areas where I would need a car to get to work. I would never not have a car. I thought we were going to move to Hawaii and settle there but he didn't intend to buy a car because he doesn't find the need for one and doesn't drive himself. He wouldn't let me get a job and constantly talked me out of getting one while also tormenting me about not having enough money to pay the rent. He told me he was going to kill himself a few times and then left our apartment to get a room by himself and turned off his phone so that I couldn't contact him. It was extremely traumatizing as I obviously loved him.  It was extreme manipulation.

I finally escaped after he started reading my private notes to me that were in my phone and was really upset and became violent. I came to Palm Springs in 2022 to be with my mom only to be further abused by her. I also couldn't escape whoever hacked into my phone and continue to be tortured with invisible abuse. I had a county job before he told me to quit in 2019 and I have not been able to find an adequate career since then. I have also been the victim of several hate crimes for being skinny because I hit my head at the end of 2021 and he didn't take me to the doctor. I had to heal from a sinus injury and stiff neck without medical help and then I had to go to work where I was made fun of for being skinny. He says he didn't do all of this on purpose but it doesn't change the effect it's had on my life. All of this has made me without a stable place to live due to credit issues and family abandoning me. People are blaming me for my life circumstances when all I did was trust a man I shouldn't have trusted who suddenly started calling me a racist white woman while I was trying to start a book on healing racist hate, He continues to confuse me and leave out important details about his group of friends that apparently hate me and stalk me. He called me a slave owner when he didn't want me to get a job and I was offering. Nothing about the situation makes any sense.